What is the most selfish one letter word?
“I” isn’t it?
Everything revolves around the “I”. And what does “I” stand for?
“I” stands for Expectations.
“I should be treated like this”, “I should be loved like this”, “I should be dealt with like this”, “I should be respected like this”, and “I should not be given this”.
We are all leading a life of super high Expectations. Everything revolves around “My opinions” “My desires”, “My likes”, “My dislikes”, “I love this”, “I want this”, and “I don’t want this” …
“I”, “I”, “I”, “I”, “I”…
You think life would be a very happy life when it resolves around “I”?
From a childhood, we are grown up like this. We only learn to take and everyone has to fulfill “My expectations”. Everything has to be up to my expectations. Mama I want this, Mama I don’t want to eat this, Papa buy this for me, Papa give me this and this else I will cry… etc. etc.
It’s all about “My expectations”, how it goes!
When people come to God, Mosque, Church or Temple, They are only ASKING! “Give me what I want”. No one comes to say “I love you God and I want to give you this and this” only asking from God. Not giving something in shape of Prayers, worship etc. only Asking Asking and Asking.
When the president of USA John F Kennedy came to the stage for his first presidential speech, his words rumbled into the public address when he said;
“Ask not what the country can do for you, ask what you can do for the country”
So ask not what God can do for you, as what you can do for God. But no one asks that. Because the “I” is so big. “My expectations”, “My desires”, “My things” are so powerful that even when I come to Mosque or Church or Temple, all I am doing is ASKING.
The more we lead a life of “I”, the more our “I” will be frustrated. Because people don’t just exist in this world to fulfill your expectations. Therefore, the most selfish one letter word is “I”. Which is Expectations.
So avoid this word. How do you avoid this word? Be realistic in your expectations. Having expectations is not a problem but understand that not everyone will fulfil your expectations.
Secondly, avoid this word “I” by trying to serve others. Because when you want to be served, you are dependent on people and they may not serve you. But when you want to serve, who can stop you? When you want respect, people may not respect you. But when you want to give respect, who can stop you? When you want to be loved, you may not be loved. But when you want to give love, who can stop you? When you are wanting charity, people may not give you charity. But when you want to give charity, who will stop you? So change yourself from “I” to “YOU”.
Finally the more you want for yourself, you will remain frustrated. And the more you want to give, you will remain happy.
Credit: Wording expression & Photo: HG Gaur Gopal Prabhu & http://unanything.wikia.com